Relationship Pattern Report.
A structured psychological assessment designed to help you understand the underlying patterns in how you think, feel, and relate to others.
Telehealth available
No referral required
Why does this keep happening in my relationships - even when I try to do things differently?
If you’ve found yourself repeating similar dynamics - overthinking, needing reassurance, pulling away, or feeling unsettled when things shift - it’s often not random.
There is usually a pattern driving how you respond in relationships.
The difficulty for most people isn’t just the pattern itself -it’s not having a clear explanation for why it happens, or how to change it.
This report is designed to provide a clear, structured understanding of your relationship patterns - and what is maintaining them.
What this helps you resolve
This is not just about identifying an attachment style.
It is designed to help you understand patterns that may be showing up in real situations, such as:
overthinking interactions after they happen
feeling unsettled when communication changes or feels inconsistent
needing reassurance, but not feeling fully reassured
withdrawing or shutting down when things feel too intense
feeling pulled between wanting closeness and needing space
repeating the same types of relationship dynamics over time
These patterns can feel confusing, frustrating, and difficult to shift - even when you’re aware of them.
Why insight alone often isn’t enough
Many people have already:
read about attachment styles
completed online quizzes
tried to reflect on their own patterns
But still feel:
unsure which pattern actually fits them
confused by conflicting information
unable to explain why their reactions happen in the moment
stuck repeating the same dynamics
This is because most tools:
rely on broad categories
don’t account for context or history
don’t map how patterns actually unfold in real interactions
A more precise, clinically informed approach
This report is developed by a Clinical Psychologist and is based on:
validated, evidence-based psychological measures
structured clinical questioning
integration of your personal experiences and relational history
Rather than relying on a single quiz or category, the report provides a clinical formulation of your patterns - explaining:
what triggers them
how they unfold
what maintains them over time
Example of how your report may read
The following is a brief example of how patterns may be described within the report:
You may find that when someone’s communication shifts - even slightly, such as a delayed reply or a change in tone - your attention quickly moves toward the relationship. What might seem minor to someone else can feel significant, creating a sense that something may have changed or that the connection is less secure.
In these moments, you may notice a rise in anxiety alongside thoughts focused on understanding what’s happening - for example, questioning whether the other person is pulling away or becoming less interested. This can lead to a strong urge to restore clarity or reassurance, such as reaching out or trying to re-establish connection.
While these responses are an understandable attempt to feel more secure, they can sometimes increase pressure within the interaction. If the other person responds by pulling back or becoming less consistent, this can reinforce the sense that something is wrong - continuing the cycle.
How your report becomes this specific
Your report is not based on general descriptions.
It is built using:
your specific relationship triggers
your emotional responses in those moments
the thoughts that tend to follow
how you typically respond behaviourally
what happens next in the interaction
how this pattern has repeated over time
This allows the report to map out your exact relational cycle, rather than placing you into a broad category.
What changes after this
After completing this report, many people find they can:
recognise patterns earlier, rather than after the fact
understand what is driving their reactions in relationships
feel less confused or reactive in emotionally charged situations
respond more intentionally, rather than automatically
make clearer decisions about what they need in relationships
How this differs from other approaches
Many people consider therapy or self-reflection when trying to understand their relationship patterns.
This report serves a different purpose - providing a clear, structured understanding of these patterns upfront, which can then inform what comes next.
Why this goes deeper than typical attachment insights
Most attachment-based tools and discussions focus on broad categories (e.g. anxious, avoidant, secure).
While these can be helpful, they often don’t fully explain:
why patterns feel so specific
why they shift across different relationships
or why insight alone doesn’t always lead to change
This assessment integrates multiple validated measures to capture both core attachment patterns and more nuanced relational tendencies, including emotional regulation and behavioural responses.
This allows for a more precise and personalised formulation of how your patterns operate.
A different level of understanding
This report is designed to provide a level of clarity that is often difficult to reach through self-reflection alone.
For many people, it offers an understanding of their relationship patterns that would typically take time to develop within therapy - presented in a clear, structured way.
How this fits with therapy
This report can be completed as a standalone assessment or alongside therapy.
For some individuals, it provides a clear starting point.
For others, it helps clarify patterns that can then be explored further within therapy.
What’s involved
Step 1: Brief assessment measures
You will complete targeted evidence based questionnaires assessing attachment and relational patterns.
Step 2: Personalised intake
You will provide examples of your relationship experiences and patterns you would like to understand.
Step 3: Report preparation
All information is integrated into a structured, personalised report.
Timeframe
Completed within approximately 1–2 weeks
Fees
$2,600 - $3200 (excluding GST)
Cost depends on complexity
Next steps.
If you would like a clearer, more structured understanding of your relationship patterns, you’re welcome to proceed with booking.
If you’re unsure, you’re welcome to get in touch for brief clarification.